Oksana Marafioti

Oksana Marafioti is a writer of Romani-Armenian descent. Her memoir, American Gypsy, was published in 2012 by FSG. She has also published essays and stories in Time, Slate, The Rumpus, Pilgrimage, and several anthologies, including Immigrant Voices. She is a 2013 Library of Congress fellow, and a Guest Lecturer at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas.

Formations

Love. Vulnerability. One is a ghost without the other. As children, we’re masters of affection. We overflow with it. Love comes naturally, like the seasonal flu. You hurt us, we love you still. More and fiercely. Like you’re worth saving even if the world gives up on you. Having no idea this gift is precious, we squander it on those who don’t always deserve it, but it matters little, because our hearts are in bloom. Until the onset of adulthood. By then, our scars prevent us from blooming too much. Adulting and vulnerability are well-known oxymorons, not the norm. Once we’ve grown, emotional dignity becomes a commodity.